TIEHAUS Code of Conduct

BASICS

  • RESPECT THE SPACE, VALUES AND PEOPLE. We aim to be an inclusive space that practices safe kink practices. The hosts have the right to excuse anyone that breaks those boundaries.
  • DRAMA NEEDS TO BE LEFT AT THE DOOR. If you cannot do the following, you will be asked to leave:
    • MAINTAIN CIVILITY: If you are not able to share the space with others or refrain from arguments at TIEHAUS events, you will be asked to leave.
  • UPHOLD OUR HONESTY POLICY. We vet all attendees in order to keep our spaces free of consent violators. Lack of cooperation to discuss incidents honestly and openly will automatically place you on our blacklist.
  • SAFETY IS PRIORITY. We want all of our attendees to enjoy themselves, but safety comes first. Your conduct will be noted if we believe that other people’s safety is in jeopardy.

PRIVACY

  • WHAT HAPPENS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS, STAYS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS. Your kinks, preferences and vanilla information are not ours to judge or expose. We will do everything in our power to keep that information safe and secure.
  • HOWEVER, YOUR CONDUCT IS OPEN FOR REVIEW. We vet all of our attendees and communicate with other communities to help keep our spaces consent violator free. Any negative or unsafe incidents that occur will be recorded and noted.

RESPECT

  • PRONOUNS & HOW OTHERS IDENTIFY. People’s gender is what they say it is. You don’t get to decide for them.
  • OUR COMMUNITY: This is a diverse, inclusive, body positive, kink positive, and sex-positive environment.
    • THERE ARE LIMITS TO THIS. THE FOLLOWING ARE GROUNDS FOR DISMISSAL AND BLACKLISTING.
      • Your Nazi-Kink IS NOT WELCOME HERE.
      • Your fetishization of people, (ex trans, people of color, race, etc.) IS NOT WELCOME HERE.
      • Your predilection for anything that is ILLEGAL in most states IS NOT WELCOME HERE.
      • Intimidation, racism, sexism, anti-semitism, homophobia, Islamophobia, transphobia, or any other action that disrupts our goal of diversity and inclusivity IS NOT WELCOME HERE.
  • BOUNDARIES. You are not entitled to play or intimacy with anyone. We practice and value consent and negotiation. Not following those protocols are grounds for dismissal and blacklisting.
  • OTHER PEOPLE’S KINKS. Negatively speaking about or mocking a kink can be perceived as kink-shaming. Please be aware that those that practice that kink may  find that as such.
  • THOSE WITH DISABILITIES. There are people in this group with varying degrees of abilities. Disabilities are not always visible or obvious. Try to have patience and give space to different communication styles.
  • WHEN SOMEONE CALLS YOU OUT FOR DOING ANY OF THE ABOVE. If you are called out for misgendering, kink shaming, fat shaming, STD shaming, slut shaming, or for promoting racist or otherwise “Trumpian” ideals (other than golden showers)….take a minute.
    • 1. APOLOGIZE.
    • 2. Fix what you said, and DO BETTER.
    • 3. If you disagree with the way you are being called out, come to Rachel or D.

SAFETY

  • CONSENT AND NEGOTIATION NEEDS TO BE ESTABLISHED BEFORE PLAY. It is both people’s responsibility to communicate needs and boundaries.
  • ONLY PROCEED WITH WHAT YOU NEGOTIATED & CONSENTER TO. Playing within those boundaries helps to keep all parties accountable.
  • ROPE IS EDGEPLAY. Possibility of injury or serious harm may occur. Safe tying practices are mandatory and will be enforced to the host’s best ability.

SUPPORT

  • YOU DESERVE TO BE VISIBLE AND RESPECTED. If you are a member of a marginalized group and you feel like anything said is disrespectful or inappropriate, we empower you to stand up to it. If you do not have the emotional resources to call it out and educate somebody yourself, contact an admin and ask us to address it on your behalf. Everyone should feel safe here.
  • IF YOU FEEL THAT YOUR CONSENT HAS BEEN VIOLATED:

ADDRESSING THE SITUATION

  • REGARDING WORDS & ACTIONS: People have bad days. People have bad judgement. People are sometimes thoughtless. Some people are clueless about the way certain memes or stories are perceived by others.
  • IF YOU FUCK UP, APOLOGIZE AND RECOGNIZE THAT SOMEONE WAS AFFECTED BY YOUR ACTIONS. Our community does not grow and hold itself accountable unless we work together to make that happen. Your honesty and openness will define your reputation in the community.

CONSEQUENCES

  • WHENEVER POSSIBLE, THE HOSTS WILL GIVE A WARNING BEFORE ANY DRASTIC ACTION IS TAKEN. Our decisions about your participation in the future are based on all available information about the incident.
  • THE HOSTS HAVE THE FINAL SAY. Our decisions are based on thorough research and are objectively made for the safety and protection of the space and attendees. Any rebuttal or defiance will not be tolerated.

ADDITIONAL NOTES

  • We may, at our discretion, delete posts or lock comments when posts are off topic, of questionable nature, or are not conducive to the fun and community atmosphere we swear we’re trying to build here.

 

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